For every proverb, there is normally another one saying the opposite. Normally both are still true and valid, but under different circumstances.
Good things come to those who wait – if you’re in the business of making wine.
But if you’re looking for a rise, a change in your job, a new home, a partner, a friend, an opportunity – then you’re better off seeking them out yourself.
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You just never do. No matter how hard you think about it you just never know for sure.
You hear about people who are fit as a fiddle one moment and on their deathbed in hospital the next. No one knows when disease will strike, when their fortune will change, when their karma will catch up with them.
People who win the lottery don’t know they’re going to win beforehand. Richard Branson didn’t always know he was going to become successful, neither did Oprah. Neil Armstrong didn’t always know he was going to walk on the moon.
In the early days these people had no real idea of their future successes. They had hopes and dreams just as you have, but they didn’t know how it would turn out. None of us do. The future is unwritten – it’s all up in the air until it actually happens.
Imagine what it would have been like to have been in their shoes before it all happened… They were another nobody, just like you and me. Imagine what it would be like for them to look back on themselves before they were successful. They would be able to see how ordinary they were. They may have seen themselves much as you see yourself now…
The future is waiting for you to create it. How it turns out is up to you.
If you listened every time someone said “you can’t do that” there would be a lot of things you wouldn’t do. You would have a big list of missed opportunities. The number of successes you managed to avoid would be impressive. You would be a spectacular failure. In fact you would be the envy of non-achievers all over the world.
So if you want to achieve something in life then you have to block out these voices telling you that you’ll fail. Pay them no attention. Avoid being distracted by their arguments against your goals. Leave their negativity to them.
Of course you still have to consider your options intelligently, but if you think it’s the right thing to do – then do it.
Don’t wait for the permission or approval of others.