You Are The Average Of The 5 People You Spend The Most Time With

Most of us have people we work with, or live with, or have to deal with in some way another, who really irk us. Some people are just poisonous – the atmosphere deteriorates as soon as they enter the room. They bring a dark cloud with them.

Then there are the kind of people you want to be around. The atmosphere changes as soon as they enter the room – for the better. They are positive, upbeat. They see opportunity where others see difficulty. They radiate positivity and are uplifting to be around.

The title of this post is a quote from Jim Rohn and there’s some real truth to it. In some ways you really are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with. Would you be a better person if you hung out with Mother Teresa or hitler?

If I could choose people to hang around with it would be people like: Buddha, Jesus, Patanjali, Dr George King, Mother Teresa, Mahatma Gandhi, Bruce Lee, and of course William Shatner :) I know that’s more than five but it’s really hard to narrow it down!

Who are the people you spend the most time with, and are they bringing you up or down?

7 thoughts on “You Are The Average Of The 5 People You Spend The Most Time With”

  1. Good question …

    But really when you are at your core natural self there is nobody who can bring you down …

    There is a place where nobody can bring you down or up.

    You can just go there yourself … it’s called presence. – Self-Destruction for Abnormal People

  2. Who we hang out with, the people we seek to be around definitely have an effect on our lives.

    And while I agree that we can overcome obstacles, we also live in a world where certain things help us and other don’t. It’s wise to put ourselves, when we can, in an environment that is conducive to being our best.

  3. This is something I think about on a regular basis. The thing I struggle with in this regard is that although I’ve managed to find what I consider to be a good group of people, our shared environment (work) is somewhat toxic and quite often at least one of us is not in a good frame of mind.

    As nice as it would be to hang with really awesome people like those you’ve listed (especially William Shatner :P ), we may have a much more limited pool to pick from. I think it’s important to make the distinction between good people in a toxic environment vs just downright toxic people.

    At any rate, you’re absolutely on the money saying that the people we spend time with makes a huge difference.

  4. Given the choice, I think I’d hang around with four positive people and one negative one. It’s good to receive positive vibes, but I guess it’s also good to keep the energy flowing and share it with someone who needs it too. ;)

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