I used to work for a recruitment company and when interviewing candidates we always asked people for examples of how they had done a particular task in the past. For example,
Can you tell me about a time when you were under a lot of pressure and how you dealt with it?
The idea being that how we behave in the past is a good indicator of how we will behave in the future. Experience shows that this is certainly true.
But it doesn’t have to be.
Whether it is or isn’t is entirely up to you.
If you want to learn from your experiences and change for the better then that is your decision. You’ll be in the minority if you do this mind you. Most people are content to keep making the same mistakes without ever learning from them. They repeat, repeat, repeat ad infinitum. I know I’ve done more than my share of repeating stupid mistakes. But there is another way!
Instead of blindly wandering through life, look for ways to learn from your experiences so you can leave this life more evolved than you were when you entered it!
As Albert Einstein said,
Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.
Learn from your mistakes and change for the better!
Think about what you do in your day, the routines you go through, the good things and the bad – are all of those things done for a good reason, for a real purpose?
Probably some of them are.
But definitely some of them aren’t.
Some of what you do is done for the sake of it, or because you’ve always done it, or because you can’t think of a reason to stop doing it, or because you haven’t thought about other ways of doing it, or because it’s the easiest way, or because it’s the safest way, or just…
Some of it is simply habit and if you think about it you’ll probably struggle to find a good reason why you actually do it.
A child, born to very traditional Christian parents, starts having memories of a past life as a fighter pilot in the Second World War. From the age of two he is able to give them extraordinary details about the planes he flew and the people who he served alongside.
The father is obsessed with disproving the idea of reincarnation as it goes against his devout Christian beliefs. He researches his son’s comments in great detail. His son even names people he fought with in the war and his father is able to track them and their families down.
His father, eventually has to accept the facts of the situation, that indeed his son is a reincarnation of a World War Two fighter pilot who was killed when his plane was shot down in Japan.
Even a sceptic would find this an impressive story – it’s well worth a read!
When ordinary people like you or I are apathetic we give our voice to others who are less so.
When we stand back and allow the world to carry on as it is we also allow others who feel more strongly to have their voice heard more clearly. The loudest and strongest end up getting things their way.
On a case by case basis the effects are insignificant but when this happens on a massive scale the effects can be catastrophic.
In 48 hours, nearly half the British mass media could be bought by one of the world’s worst media moguls.
Right now Rupert Murdoch is attempting to further consolidate his grip on power by expanding in the UK – much to the outrage of the less apathetic among us.
As his voice grows louder, our voices fade away.
But we can still be heard collectively!
I encourage you to use your voice and sign the Avaaz petition urging the UK goverment to stop this from happening.
Feeling sorry for yourself? Take a walk around the children’s ward of your local hospital. Stop and talk to the kids. Ask them why they’re there and see how they are coping.
If you are a human being this is guaranteed to work.
Perhaps you have really big problems in your life and you see the point I’m making but you just don’t think it will work?
In that case you should travel to the Congo and find a village in a troubled area. Talk to the local people and hear them talk about the marauding bandits that roam the countryside. Listen to them as they talk about how they live in fear of being attacked. How these bandits could attack their village at any time, unleashing unspeakable atrocities on them.
Then try to think of your own problems.
You will find that an amazing thing has happened.
Your problems will have changed. They are no longer what they once were, they are smaller and less significant. They may even appear petty.
You may even feel embarrassed to have even considered them problems in the first place.
Have you tried the most obvious option? Have you looked under your nose?
Perhaps you were too daunted to take the most obvious option so you didn’t even consider it. It’s probably still there, waiting for you to open your eyes and realise that it is the path you should take.
Sometimes the best answer is right in front of you. Look there first.
We like to think we are aware of our abilities. We like to think we know our limits. We know what we can do and we know what we can’t do. We see something difficult and say “I could never do that”.
But no matter how well we know ourselves, we don’t know what we are really capable of, that’s for certain.
We could do better than we are doing at present, that’s for sure. We could get better grades, a better job, a nicer house. We could help more people. We could make a difference in the world. We could change people’s lives. We could be happier, more fulfilled, more useful, better friends, better fathers…
If we can’t admit that then we’re only kidding ourselves.
It doesn’t matter what we say, who we are or what we’ve already achieved. It’s the same for anyone and everyone.